Hi, I'm Federica, a sleep consultant and founder of the With Love Method 🤍
A baby's cry is one of the first forms of communication we learn to understand as parents.
It can frighten us, make us feel inadequate, or generate anxiety, but in reality, it's a precious language: through crying, our little one talks to us, seeks us, asks for our presence.

Accepting crying, without judgment or fear, is the first step to building a deep and secure bond.

Why babies cry

Crying is never a "whim" or an act of stubbornness: it is the expression of a real need.
A newborn or young child can cry for many reasons:

• because they are hungry or thirsty;

• because their diaper is dirty;

• because they desire closeness and contact;

• because they are scared, overstimulated, or tired;

• because they are experiencing emotions they don't yet know how to manage.

👉 When your child cries, try asking yourself:
"What are they communicating to me right now?"
This simple change in perspective helps to see crying as a cry for help, and not as something to "control."

What happens if we ignore crying

Leaving a child to cry alone does not make them stronger and does not help them "get used to it."
On the contrary, it can make them believe that their needs are not important or that there is no one ready to respond.

Prolonged stress in the early years of life can have effects on emotional and relational development, making it more difficult for the child to learn to trust, regulate their emotions, or feel safe.

Accepting crying does not mean spoiling, but legitimizing their emotions and showing them that the world is a safe place, where someone listens and understands.

Crying and sleep: two connected worlds

One of the times crying frightens parents the most is at bedtime.
We've all heard that "if they cry, they'll get used to it" or that "they'll learn on their own." But the truth is different.

With the With Love Method, I start from a fundamental principle:
✨ you should never leave a child to cry to teach them to sleep.

If a child stops calling us after a long cry, it's not because they've learned to comfort themselves, but because they've understood that no one is responding.
This doesn't build autonomy, but it can undermine trust.

Sleep, instead, arises from a deep sense of security: a child who feels welcomed, understood, and supported will relax more easily and will learn, over time, to fall asleep peacefully.

What about night awakenings?

Night awakenings in children are physiological and natural.
They should not be "eliminated," but supported with presence and reassurance.

When your little one cries at night, don't ignore it.
You can:

• comfort them with a caress;

• speak to them in a calm voice;

• offer your closeness and contact.

This way, they will learn that their needs are heard, and over time they will be able to manage awakenings independently, because they will know that you have always been there.

Crying as a language of love

Crying is not an enemy to be feared, but a language of love.
Every tear is a form of communication, a way of saying: "I need you".

Accepting crying means telling your child:
💞 "I am here for you. Your emotions matter. You can trust."

Listening, hugging, and responding to their needs is the foundation for raising calm, secure children who are ready to trust the world.

✨ Remember: there is no "right" or "wrong" way to accept crying.
There is only what feels right for you and your little one.
Trust your heart — it already knows what to do 🤍

✨ If you wish to delve deeper and receive concrete support, here are the services I have created to accompany you through every stage of your child's growth:

1. A short video about my services (click)

   I explain my services in this video, telling you how I work, what you can expect from consultations and programs, and who they are truly useful for.

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