Hi, I'm Federica, a sleep consultant and founder of With Love Coaching 🤍
I know that during your baby's first few months, nights can seem endless. If you're thinking of starting a sleep coaching program to help your little one sleep better, it's important for you to know that in the first few months, a newborn's sleep isn't yet ready for a full sleep coaching program.

During the so-called "fourth trimester" – the first three months of life – newborns are still learning to adapt to the outside world: their circadian rhythms are not yet mature, and they haven't developed the ability to self-soothe.

At this stage, our task isn't to educate their sleep, but to gently shape it, creating a serene and predictable environment that lays the groundwork for habits that will gently accompany their growth.

Newborn sleep in the fourth month

The fourth trimester: love, responsiveness, and connection

In the first few months, newborns primarily need contact, security, and consistency.
Responding promptly to their needs doesn't mean spoiling them, but rather helping them feel secure. That's how trust is built.

Here are some tools that can help you at this stage:

✨ Skin-to-skin contact: promotes bonding, calms their heartbeat, and regulates the baby's temperature.
🧣 Soft swaddling: mimics the feeling of the womb and provides a sense of containment and tranquility.
🌙 Relaxing routines: not rigid schedules, but small, gentle rituals (a lullaby, a caress, dim light) that signal it's time to sleep.

Nutrition and sleep: a fundamental basis

A well-fed newborn sleeps better and more peacefully.
Whether it's breastfeeding, formula feeding, or a combination, what matters is that the baby is satisfied and serene.

If you notice difficulties such as reflux or colic, talk to your pediatrician or a lactation consultant: addressing these minor discomforts is often the first step to also improving sleep quality.

"Drowsy but awake": a small practice that makes a difference

Even in the first few months, you can start putting your baby in their crib when they are drowsy but still awake.
This way, they begin to familiarize themselves with their sleep space and gradually learn to relax, slowly reducing

the need for contact.

It's a simple, but valuable step for the future: it helps them feel that they can fall asleep in their crib… always with you by their side.

Newborns and routines: flexibility, not rigidity

It's normal for newborns not to follow fixed schedules: their sleep is still irregular and guided by other needs.
On average, they can only stay awake for 30–90 minutes between naps.

For this reason, it's much more useful to follow their signs of tiredness – yawning, rubbing eyes, a distant gaze – rather than relying on predetermined times.

The key word at this stage is flexibility: embrace your baby's rhythm and gently adapt to their pace.

Twins and multiples: the challenge of synchronization

With twins or closely-aged siblings, sleep can become truly challenging.
A small piece of advice I often share with families is to try to synchronize meals and naps, to prevent parents from having to stay awake for endless shifts.

It's not always easy, but even partially aligning sleep times can change the quality of your days (and your nights!).

When to truly start sleep coaching

The right time to begin a true sleep support program usually arrives around 6 months; from a cognitive and emotional standpoint, our little ones are more predisposed and ready to learn self-soothing.

It is then that, with the With Love Method, I guide families step-by-step with gentle, respectful, and gradual strategies, very different from rigid "cry it out" methods.

Some babies can start a little earlier (around 4/5 months), but always with the pediatrician's approval.

If your newborn struggles to sleep…

It can happen, and it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.
Here's what you can do immediately to support them (and yourself):

💧 Check basic needs: hunger, diaper, temperature, discomfort.
🥱 Observe sleep cues: yawning, distant gaze, increasing agitation.
🌙 Create a good sleep environment: cool, dark, quiet room, with soft lighting.
🧑⚕️ Talk to your pediatrician if awakenings or crying seem excessive or difficult to manage.

Conclusion: patience as a gift

Your baby's first few months are a journey of patience, love, and deep connection.
There's no need to force changes in their sleep: it will come at the right time, when your little one is ready.

In the meantime, know that every gesture of acceptance and listening you offer your baby today is already building, within them, the foundation for peaceful and trusting sleep.

Breathe, embrace, listen: you're already doing the most important work of all 🤍

✨ If you wish to learn more and receive concrete support, here are the services I've created to guide you through every stage of your child's growth:

1. A short video about my services (click)

   I explain my services in this video. I'll tell you aloud how I work, what you can expect from consultations and programs, and for whom they are truly useful.

2. Introductory webinar (Click)

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